I fell in love with a “Pathological Malignant Narcissist”, twice!!
“Why do we see the Red Flags in life and choose to ignore them”
Nearly a decade ago, I developed a Facebook site called “The Red Flag Society”. While sitting around a bonfire with friends one evening, the topic came up about “Why did we see the red flags of a toxic relationship and still chose to ignore them?” One by one, each of us told the story of some type of toxic relationship. By the end of the night we realized that we have all loved someone at one time or another that displayed a Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
NPD was an interesting topic. I don’t think I really ever knew that this disorder even existed. I decided to do some research to better understand why good people tolerated being treated badly and still stayed in these toxic relationships.
Many of us wonder why is it that we acknowledge the Red Flags and chose to ignore them!
“All Shook Up, Again” became my story. It didn’t happen once, but twice…
Cognitive Dissonance played a very heavy hand in what kept my relationship wrapped up in this chaos
and manipulation . This happened with the same narcissist, again and yet again!
Through the years, the information that I’ve studied about toxic relationships has been shared on The Red Flag Society sites. RFS receives hundreds of messages from followers that were lost in their relationships, didn’t understand why and were seeking answers. This site started to become a collection of material that I read and placed on this site for easy access for those to read when it was needed.
“The stories and scenes were always the same, only the actors and actresses were different“
I decided to name the author of these blogs Echo. As in Greek Mythology, Echo had lost her right to have her “own” voice when she fell deeply in love with Narcissus. This was a curse, quite like the one we go through when we fall in love with a narcissist.
I have been writing throughout the years, just trying to keep straight what the reality was, verses what my narcissist tried to project the reality to be. I found myself fall into cognitive dissonance many times knowing his version was only a projection, but wanted to still believe in him.
“All Shook Up Again” will be released shortly!
Within this blog and the pages of All Shook Up Again, are raw versions of true experiences when I found myself riding shotgun on Mr. Toad’s ride. Honestly, the ups and downs of loving a narcissist will change your life FOREVER! A narcissist is textbook and once you catch their rhythm, they are easily read. Only if you will allow yourself to see the truth that is.
I hope you enjoy my blog and find within All Shook Up Again some answers to your own questions. Within the pages, it is my hope that you will find some information helpful, enlightening, supportive and informative. It is riddle with my writings from the heart to information and my interpretation as to why I fell in love and remained with my narcissist through the years.
I thought I was “All Shook up” the first time around, but then it happened “Again”.
Same Narcissist, same story, nothing changed again… except me!
We can never shed the experience we encounter, but can share it with those that may need validation that they are not alone when falling in love with the unlovable.
Enjoy my Blog!